Narcissism is a term used to describe a focus on the self and self-admiration that is taken to an extreme. The word “narcissism” comes from a Greek myth in which a handsome young man named Narcissus sees his reflection in a pool of water and falls in love with it.
Narcissistic personality disorder is one of a group of conditions called “Cluster B” or “dramatic” personality disorders. People with these disorders have intense, unstable emotions and a distorted self-image. Narcissistic personality disorder is further characterized by an abnormal love of self, an exaggerated sense of superiority and self-importance, and a preoccupation with success and power. However, these attitudes and behaviors do not reflect true self-confidence. Instead, the attitudes conceal a deep sense of insecurity and a fragile self-esteem. People with narcissistic personality disorders also often have a complete lack of empathy for others.
What Are the Symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
In many cases, people with narcissistic personality disorder:
Are self-centered and boastful
Seek constant attention and admiration
Consider themselves better than others
Exaggerate their talents and achievements
Believe that they are entitled to special treatment
Are easily hurt but may not show it
Set unrealistic goals
May take advantage of others to achieve their goals
Other common traits of narcissistic personality disorder include the following:
Preoccupation with fantasies that focus on unlimited success, power, intelligence, beauty, or love
Belief that he or she is “special” and unique, and can only be understood by other special people
Expectation that others will automatically go along with what he or she wants
Inability to recognize or identify with the feelings, needs, and viewpoints of others
Envy of others or a belief that others are envious of him or her
Hypersensitivity to insults (real or imagined), criticism, or defeat, possibly reacting with rage, shame, and humiliation
Arrogant behavior and/or attitude
What Causes Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
The exact cause of narcissistic personality disorder is not known. However, many mental health professionals believe it results from a combination of factors that may include biological vulnerabilities, social interactions with early caregivers, and psychological factors that involve temperament and the ability to manage stresses. Some researchers believe that narcissistic personality disorder may be more likely to develop when children experience parenting styles that are excessively pampering, or when parents have a need for their children to be talented or special in order to maintain their own self-esteem. On the other end of the spectrum, narcissistic personality disorder might develop as the result of neglect or abuse and trauma inflicted by parents or other authority figures during childhood. The disorder usually is evident by adolescence or early adulthood when personality traits have become consolidated.
This information was taken from WebMD.com, a website millions of people go to for information on mental and physical problems in their lives, and it is relied on for its credibility. But….alas! There is no known cause or REASON for this increasing personality disorder and PROBLEM in America today! Why?
The medical field and psychiatric/psychological fields cannot or do not accept the TRUTH of its origin, and will NEVER report the reason for it even if they are aware! Why?
Statistics report that 1% of the American population have narcissistic personality disorder. However, that number cannot possibly be accurate because narcissists will NEVER seek treatment for their “problem,” or admit they even HAVE a “problem!” That is the nature of this beast! So how in the world do they come up with that figure?
Narcissism is one of the most searched terms on Google, and all other search engines today. Children and young adults today demonstrate narcissistic traits and tendencies more than ever before in history, reports are abundant, and many people, institutions, relationships, and our country in general are being destroyed by their self-centered behaviors, lack of empathy, care, and conscience every single day!
These slimy and slick “people” are so crafty at convincing others, be it a love-interest, employer, family member, or anyone who can offer them SOMETHING they can gain from, that most people never see it coming until it’s too late. That’s their “gift” and their victims’ “nightmare” to say the very least!
With the rise of such a social disease, medicine and psychology STILL cannot answer the question as to WHERE it comes from or WHY it happens!
My up-coming book, “Socialcide: How America is Loving Itself to Death” offers a very daring, yet realistic REASON for this evil and its rise in America!
After two years of deep research and over twenty years personal experience as a psychotherapist, I have come up with a pliable, realistic and believable theory as to this plague’s causes and what to do to stop it!
I am not worried about critics, my colleagues, my profession or any others’ agreement or disagreement with my findings. My only concern is speaking the words I truly believe everyone needs to hear to do with what they choose!
Please visit my website at http://www.socialcideinfo.com or on Face Book at Socialcide: How America is Loving Itself to Death for more information and for its official release date (which should be in the Fall of this year, 2014).
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Let’s get REAL. Two twelve-year-old girls who stabbed their “friend” at a sleep-over to prove “Slenderman” is real are not mentally ill, “just kids,” or did they simply “make a mistake.” No. They are overcome by evil and today’s kids are becoming more and more influenced by it.
We can blame their parents, who may be partially responsible for not monitoring enough what they get into online, but kids have more access and “smarts” on the internet than their parents will. They can’t stop EVERYTHING they look at!
No, these girls planned this crime and carried it out. One of them said, “Many people do not believe Slenderman is real and we wanted to prove the skeptics wrong.” Really? She learned about “Slenderman” on a website (WHAT A SURPRISE) called CreepyPasta. (HUH?) I’ve been around 45 PLUS years and have been an interested party in everything WEIRD, but NEVER HEARD of “Slenderman.”
James McCann, co-founder of A Paranormal Group says that Slenderman is a fictional demon-orientated (ANOTHER SURPRISE!) character who “stalks, traumatizes and abducts children.” He also said to be able to “reach his level, you have to KILL SOMEBODY. So one of these demonically-possessed girls wanted to become a “proxy” of the demon, and took control which meant stabbing her friend to kill her and her 12-year-old accomplice joined in!
Reports say they will be tried as adults. There is a lot of chatter about how this should not be on crime shows and online, bet lets be real….There is no rehabilitation for 12-year-olds who have allowed pure evil into their lives. They have had no remorse, no regrets and no apologies since they stabbed their friend. Thank God the victim LIVED! However, their next one may not be so lucky! Try them as adults??? “But they are merely children!” The ever-babbling “Talking Heads” on television who are supposed to be “professionals,” blame their parents, the internet, their hormones, their age…..ENOUGH ALREADY FOR GOODNESS SAKE! They are TROUBLE, and TROUBLED! THERE IS NO HELP!
Sure, their parents should have been more diligent in monitoring what their kids are watching and into “online,” but guess what? That “ain’t” happening! Kids today are savvy, and way ahead of authority and reason! That’s exactly how Socialcide’s plan goes! We are in BIG TROUBLE and it’s not stopping anytime soon folks!!!
We need to get back to basics in the IMMEDIATE FUTURE! Otherwise, we will see more and more disgusting, evil and violent occurrences from our CHILDREN and adults! When is enough enough??
Check out my site at http://www.SocialcideInfo.com and buy my book. It’s ALL THERE and maybe, just MAYBE we can turn things around!
The so-called “Virgin Killer” case continues to trouble my mind and emotions. This guy truly and completely EPITOMIZES my concept of Socialcide like no other case I have researched or reported on. This twenty-two-year-old had every single element of what our country will see more and more of until we begin to realize and change what we have been doing to encourage such evil and sickness!
He was a sociopath, a psychopath, a narcissist, an entitled “Millenial,” with no sense of empathy, conscience, concern for others or decency what-so-ever. He had decent looks, came from a family with money, but could not get over a girl he knew when he was twelve and she was ten! TEN! For twelve years his assumed “rejection” by a ten-year-old girl festered and boiled in his evil, sick mind to the point of disaster where he killed six people and injured nine!
Over his brief lifespan, this monster failed to ever get a girlfriend let alone a DATE! This he video-blogged about on YouTube with terrorizing rants about how many and much he has been “wronged” by women and the “sorority sluts” who wanted nothing to with the “perfect guy!” Any woman who he had approached apparently felt something BEYOND evil emoting from this freak and they should be congratulated for having that much sense! It probably saved their lives!
This guy is not the “one that got away” that many women may speak of, but was more the one you would wish would GO AWAY! This guy was a bit of an anomaly in the world of narcissists because they are normally very crafty at manipulating someone into buying their false package. However, this psycho couldn’t use his looks, charm, money or shiny brand new BMW sports car to fool any woman and thank God for that!
But, like all narcissists, his failure to lure any women into his trap only fueled his entitled ways and thoughts. He never thought about what may be wrong with HIM that kept him from ever getting kissed by a girl. No, like all narcissists and psychopathic sociopaths, he blamed. He blamed ALL WOMEN for not adoring him. “How could they not LOVE ME?!” I am certain he thought….after all, he did consider himself “The perfect guy!” Really.
This young man had been in therapy since the age of eight. To date, reports have not indicated why, but he was. At the time of his murderous rampage on May 23, 2014, he was seeing “numerous therapists.” (Who sees numerous therapists?) In any case, his family was tipped off and became aware of his evil rants on YouTube and notified the police. They interviewed him in his apartment and with no criminal history and his “Mask of Sanity” (which ALL narcissists have readily available to deceive people) well at hand, he explained that all of his “rants” were “simply a misunderstanding.” and he would never hurt anyone or himself. Later, on another rant, he said, “If the police had searched my apartment, they would have found all of my weapons and plans to take my revenge.” They obviously didn’t.
How amusing this must have been for him! “Idiots!”
It is interesting if not angering to wonder how a twenty-two-year-old man could legally purchase no less than 3 guns when he has been “in therapy” since the age of eight. Do not be too quick to blame the NRA yet because his first three victims were stabbed to death. (Should we eat steak with plastic knives?). He also used that shiny new black “BEEMER” as a weapon running over too many people!
Sure, those “blonde sorority sluts” wanted nothing to do with him. He could not accept that HE was not “perfect!” Where did this come from? Psychology cannot explain it. Psychiatry cannot explain it. He did not use alcohol or drugs. Medicine has no answer either. No one has addressed the real cause behind his terror! That is the result of SOCIALCIDE and HOW AMERICA IS LOVING ITSELF TO DEATH! My friends, THAT is where we are and evil people like him (no name provided intentionally) will continue to cause harm and death to others simply because they cannot have their way! Murder and Mass Killings have become the new way to deal with “Anger Management” and self-entitlement!
The “blame” is not with the NRA, the fields of psychology and psychiatry. law enforcement or anyone or thing else except US! We have let evil take over and it’s only getting worse.
Please read my new book, “Socialcide: How America is Loving Itself to Death,” to learn the TRUTH! Visit my website at http://www.SocialcideInfo.com and stay in touch for the publication date! We need to be aware! Thank you.
He called them “blonde sorority sluts” though he never knew them. A 22-year-old, apparently extremely spoiled, narcissistic psychopath reported that in all of his 22 years, he could “never get a date” and said he is “still a virgin.” This he blamed on young women who would not give him the time of day, but rather chose “obnoxious men” instead of him, who he believes to be “the perfect guy.” Well, so far we can all get an idea of just how “perfect” this guy is, and why girls just might be just a tad turned off to him, no?
This narcissist posted a video (of course) of himself online with a direct threat to “the hottest sorority house of University of Southern California, Santa Barbara City College (UCSB) warning them that he would “slaughter every single spoiled, stuck-up, blonde slut” that he saw “inside there.” As he began to carry out his threat, he banged on the sorority house door like a madman, but the girls didn’t feel right about opening the door. Lucky for them, and for however many other girls could smell a creep in this psychopath’s career and never dated him. He said in his video, “I don’t know why you girls aren’t attracted to me, but I will punish you all for it.”
This is the extreme of what America’s youth today is believing of themselves, and how unstable they are when it comes to not getting there way. They will kill innocent people if they do not give them what they believe they deserve!
Now where might this nutbag have gotten so full of himself? He’s not a bad looking guy from his picture in the New York Daily News (May 25, 2014), so it must have been in his demeanor or delivery. He claimed in his manifesto that since puberty he “was forced to endure an existence of loneliness, rejection and unfilled desires, all be cause girls have never been attracted to me.” Hmm…22-years-old. “Girls gave their affection and sex and love to other men, but never me.” So, this could in no way be his OWN FAULT?
This is Socialcide. This is a generation of young people who do not accept personal responsibility or understand why they are not being adored by every single person who they come in contact with, and when they don’t, they just might kill to “teach a lesson.” And unfortunately, kill he did. Although he never gained access into the sorority house, he shot outside the sorority house killing two members then took off in his shiny black BMW sports car, running over 2 bicyclists and firing out of the car window while driving killing a male student all the while reported to be “smirking and appearing to be having a good time.” He also was shooting into a delicatessen’s front window, but after a shootout with law enforcement, his pathetic life was ended when he apparently shot himself.
Known to be born and raised “in a privileged situation” (what else is new?) his father was a minor Hollywood director. The father was reported to be crying, and saying, “When will this madness end?” after the six deaths, “Too many people have died. We should say to ourselves ‘Not one more.’ ” I’m sorry Mr. Father of a spoiled, sociopathic, narcissistic killer, you raised it! Too little too late.
This brat’s car was found loaded with an armory of guns and ammunition. In his home authorities found information that he planned to kill his two roommates in order to make the apartment his “personal torture chamber.” He also planned to kill his step-mother and two younger siblings, but sparing his father. “I will start luring people into my apartment, knock them out with a hammer, and slit their throats. I will torture some of the good looking people before I kill them, assuming that the good looking ones had the best sex lives.”
This is simply evil in its human form. What a demented, self-engrossed, conscienceless person this creep must have been! No wonder girls had no interest in him! They were fortunate! However, relatives had seen some of this monster’s creepy videos and took the good sense and liberty to warn the police of his potential. When sheriffs’ officers interviewed him, he came across as “perfectly polite, kind and a wonderful human being” to them, without a history of guns. So said his family lawyer. WHAT?! Fooling the authorities in true narcissistic fashion!
The truth is, they can fool us all! Professionals, families, cops, etc.. That’s what they do! But for some reason he couldn’t fool potential girlfriends! Who knows exactly how many lives were spared by their own “gut instincts” about him, but that “gut instinct” is extremely important in fighting these demonic forces that are growing in large numbers here in America!!!! USE IT!!!!
We have to get back to basics in our society and families. There is simply no other way to stop these psychopathic demons from their evil intentions! My soon-to-be-released book, Socialcide: How America is Loving Itself to Death deals directly with this destruction of humanity, why, how and what to do about it! Please visit http://www.SocialcideInfo.com to learn more!
(I intentionally did not name the monster discussed above because giving them more publicity may encourage others to idolize them and/or give the psychopath some form of “notoriety” he was seeking all along.)
A new report came out today in the New York Post (May 11, 2014) that shows a drastic drop in the amount of teenagers who work in the summer today as compared to 1978. Now, if you have been following the publication process of my next book, Socialcide: How America is Loving Itself to Death, you would know that that year, 1978, signified the beginning of America’s end in many ways but especially on a SOCIAL level…hence the title!
Now in 1978, 72% of 16-to-19-year-olds were working in July. Summer jobs were very desirable because they meant money! Money for concerts, movies, cars, gasoline, dates and whatever else was needed to enhance our adolescent needs! Summer jobs also taught lessons in professionalism, social-interaction with bosses, co-workers and customers, the value of a dollar, time management and responsibility. These tools and skills are essential to live a productive and successful life.
When I was 15, I walked 4 miles each way to a park where I umpired baseball games for younger children. I made $5 a game, and if it rained, or a team couldn’t participate for any reason, I did not get paid. At 16 I worked at a cooking oil packaging plant. This entailed filling 5 gallon cans with vegetable oil, then stacking them 5-cans tall on pallets to be shipped off. It was hot and brutal work, but it paid $6 an hour, and in 1981, that was big money for a 16-year-old to make.
On went my job career, and a huge lesson I learned was that I did not want to slave so hard at a job for the rest of my life, so college was in my horizon for sure. To say I was well-prepared for college is an understatement. I went running!
In 2013, a mere 40% of teens 16-to-19-years-old worked in July. That is a 38% drop since 1978. There are certainly still teens here, but they are not working like they did In the Good Old Days. Some blame the economy and continue hearing and believing that “all the part time jobs are taken by laid-off adults,” or that “no one wants to hire a teen with no experience.” In their defense, some of that may be true. However, there is more to the decline in the opinion of Socialcide.
One quote from a 17-year-old named “Peter” adds a bit of clarity to the situation. He said, “It’s not like I desperately need the money anyway.” That is becoming more and more the case these days. Mom and Dad foot their bills, and money for socializing is less and less necessary when teens socialize more online than in-person. Why bother?
Parents are doing their children no favor by not insisting they find some form of work in the summer. If a paid job is truly unable to be found, teens can learn a great deal of responsibility, social skills and Heaven forbid, humility and empathy by volunteering their free time helping the elderly, children in need, animals, veterans, or any other helping organization. If parents are going to throw money at their kids for nothing, perhaps they can pay them for their volunteer work?
As the art of social-connections and communication, real socializing and communicating not “online Tumblr-ing, Instagramming, FaceBooking and what have you, falls further and further into the abyss, so seems to go children’s desire to work and no doubt, lost social connections will also result in “not knowing” about available summer jobs that are best found by word-of-mouth.
Another problem I see with the youth of today in acquiring employment is their inability to understand HOW to go about getting a job. Many show up in let’s say, “comfortable” clothes, ask for an application (which they do not adequately know how to fill out) and leave it with the store or establishment and maybe wish for a miracle to occur. Parents do not help when and if they simply demand their kid get a job. Teach them how! That is, if you know how to do it. Kids that live more in electronic societies live less in the real world. That may sound like a too simple statement, but its truth cannot be disputed.
The decline in teenage employment has little to do with the economy and lack of summer work and more to do with the new generation of nonproductive, under-creative, unmotivated and socially inept teenagers were are creating. Statistics do not lie, and this problem by itself, the decline of teens working during the summer has and continues to slowly erode. We must ask ourselves why, and what to do about it. What will become of them and America?
Perhaps schools should be teaching social skills, how to find a job, how to socialize, and how to present oneself to a potential employer. These used to be skills that were learned in a world where people actually relied on other people for information, socialization, entertainment, and communication. Social etiquette was learned by living in the real world, and by parents who instilled the ethic of employment. If schools must take over this role now, so be it. Someone needs to and certainly those types of classes would do a child far more service in life than Algebra, Calculus, or Geometry, none of which are necessary to survive unless you plan on teaching them.
Forty-eight percent of Americans blame the increase in gun violence and random shootings and slayings on a very broken, if not useless mental health system in our country. Many wonder why these people cannot be stopped before they “lose their minds” and start senselessly slaughtering innocent children and adults.
The answer to that question could best be answered by any family member or loved one of a person with true mental illness, the kind that cause intense emotional and psychiatric torment like “hearing voices” and feeling that the CIA, Mafia or aliens are following you and putting thoughts into one’s head. These are the true mentally ill, but not always the culprits responsible for murdering innocent victims.
Most of those crimes are caused by what we in the field of Psychology call “Personality Disorders,” and they are a completely different “animal” than severe mental illness. Imagine a dog with rabies versus a dog that has been trained to kill. That analogy is very close to the difference however, a rabid dog must be put down whereas a person with severe mental illness must be treated in order to regain “sanity.”
What many people do not know is that the two largest “psychiatric hospitals” in the United States are the Los Angeles County Jail and Ricker’s Island Jail in New York. That means that prisons in America house ten times as many mentally ill as the state-run psychiatric ward that could actually treat them.
Sadly, we only see or hear of our government being “concerned” about mental illness in America after the fact of a fatal slaughtering or other mass killing. For example, the slaughter at Sandy Hood Elementary School in Connecticut raised some eyebrows among our congressional members. So much that in September 2013, Vice-President Joe Biden announced a $100 million plan aimed at increasing the availability of mental health services. That is a lot of money, but still seems far from true concern for this issue to me, especially when you consider the budget of the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration or (SAMHSA).
Samhsa has been operating inside the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services since 1992 with the assignment of reducing the impact of mental illness and targeting services to those “most in need.” This sounds like a noble effort by our government to work toward reducing and treating mental illness in America and with a budget of $3.6 billion, Biden’s $100 million appears pointless, but combined with $3.6 billion, hey! More money for a huge cause or so one would think.
Samhsa with their billions in tax dollars to reduce and treat those “most in need” of mental health services does not add up when we see jails housing more mentally ill Americans than hospitals. The truth of the matter is that Samhsa works vigorously against the treatment, care and even the reality of psychiatric illnesses. The National Institute of Mental Health (NAMI) on the other hand, supports and advocates evidence-based research and promotes medically driven models of care, including early intervention, intense psychiatric treatment and drugs. Again, if anyone has ever had, been involved with or worked with a severely mentally ill individual, you know just how important these types of treatment are. Samsha does not agree.
They advocate for legal-advocacy and anti-psychiatry models which were born with all good albeit misguided intentions of a movement that was born in the 1980s. Even today, after the endless, senseless shootings seem to continue Samhsa continues wasting taxpayer dollars on programs that sabotage true mental health treatment. In a study by Treatment Advocacy Center (TAC), a nonprofit dedicated to eliminating barriers to receiving and treating mental health, it was uncovered how sparse America’s mental health system has become. In 2012, an estimated 356,000 mentally ill inmates were being held in state prisons, compared to 35,000 in state-run psychiatric hospitals. For being “the greatest country in world,” this treatment of our mentally ill is simply cruel, sick and wrong.
Samhsa under the guise of “protecting the rights” of the mentally ill “sells” the message of what they call a “recovery model” which greatly opposes drug treatment, psychiatric care, civil-commitment laws and even the reality of mental illness. They push empowerment and coping rather than medical help or intervention. I cannot believe anyone in Samhsa has ever even met a person who has had a mental illness in need of treatment with this type of sales-pitch!
Samhsa even recommends schools bring in speakers from radical organizations such as MindFreedom who out-rightly rejects the existence of mental illness or from the National Coalition for Mental Health Recovery which “holds that psychiatric labeling is a pseudoscientific practice of limited value in helping people recover.” These recommendations to schools come directly from Samhsa’s Guide to Mental Illness Awareness Week. Is this the message we want our children hearing about mental illness? That it is not real? We can “cope” harder to avoid it? The Alternatives conference is underwritten by Samhsa and in 2013 it included a session titled “Dance Your Way to Wellness and Recovery” as well as a presentation from the “Hearing Voices Network” which believes that hearing voices is part of human experience.
Who is overseeing the actions of Samhsa’s authority? Their actions are simply insane. E. Fuller Torry, Director of the Treatment Advocacy Center who work very hard to help the mentally ill has reported that Samhsa’s most recent long-term planning report is 42,000 words long but never once mentions bipolar disorder, schizophrenia or scizoaffective disorder.
Samhsa also spends millions of dollars on “prevention methods” which include anti-bullying coloring books and online kids games and pamphlets on how to handle emotional distress after floods by “Taking care of pets…Nature and animals can help us to feel better when we are down.” Do they think Adam Lanza could have colored his way to wellness, or took his dog on a Nature Hike to divert his homicidal behavior? $3.6 million dollars a year, more mentally ill people in prisons than in psychiatric hospitals, less and less importance placed on evidenced-based care and treatment…..mental illness is a “made-up” thing that we can all prevent by ignoring voices in our heads because they are “normal?”
This is a huge atrocity in America, and more and more people are becoming mentally ill in one way or another, potentially dangerous to their lives, others’ lives and society. Mr. Vice President Biden, thank you for the $100,000,000 but that is not going to even open, let alone staff one new psychiatric hospital. Samhsa is not only lining their pockets with taxpayers’ money, but doing great damage to all of us on its way.
I strongly suggest we all write our Senators and Congress people and demand an investigation to their tactics, book-keeping and on what they base their authority and findings! $3.6 billion should be paying for much much more than coloring books, dance classes and advice on how to “feel better after a flood!”
Jails are for criminals, psychiatric hospitals are for the mentally ill. Most of them were likely in a state of decompensation when and if they committed a crime, a crime that could have been prevented had they been receiving the proper psychiatric care if it existed. Any “voice” the mentally ill, their families, and professionals have to advocate their plea is being ignored if not silenced by Samhsa’s efforts to teach our children that “there is no such thing as mental illness.” Perhaps Adam Lanza got that message while in school.